… 'I reject this.'".

Can it really be by carrying on as Chua does? Whether she’s bribing her younger daughter, Lulu, to practice violin by promising a puppy if she performs well or criticizing the schools for constantly “trying to make learning fun by having parents do all the work” for the projects they assign, Chua’s not apologizing for who she is, much less apologizing to her children. Why can't I do this? Exclusive Contest Alerts | New Issue Reminders | Discount Codes and Savings. Information about your device and internet connection, including your IP address, Browsing and search activity while using Verizon Media websites and apps. And some people get that. He said, 'Look, this is your book. “My goal as a parent is to prepare you for the future – not to make you like me,” Chua writes, which is hard for a Western parent like me to read.

If on the page she can come across as a little unhinged, in person she is charming, warm, down to earth, and quick to laugh. Produced monthly in RVA since 2009, RFM is committed to inspiring healthy families. "Nobody expected my sister to get a PhD or to get As, but I think it's a very nice story. The result is that at times Battle Hymn reads like an American-Asian version of Mommie Dearest. Find out more about how we use your information in our Privacy Policy and Cookie Policy. Her relationship with Lulu in crisis, Chua, finally, thankfully, raises the white flag. Chua hesitates for the first time. So after one terrible blow-up [with Lulu], I got on my computer and the words just poured out. A little bit rash. What parent doesn’t want her child to like her? As a result, both daughters are straight-A students, over-achieving and musically accomplished. I added a big sour face. "I do now. she says. Have I wrecked everything? By the age of 13, writes Chua, "[Lulu] wore a constant apathetic look on her face, and every other word out of her mouth was 'no' or 'I don't care'.". I tend to be over-confident but I really felt that the whole family was falling apart, I thought, have I done every single thing wrong? You can change your choices at any time by visiting Your Privacy Controls. With missionary zeal, Chua spurned the permissive style of "western parents" (she uses the term loosely), the tendency to underplay academic achievement (no rote learning!) Chinese parenting does not address happiness.”  Chua admits that this worries her, but she also doesn’t think that “Western parenting does a better job with happiness.”.

", Chua's memoir raises more questions than it answers, not least of which is, where was her husband – who was raised in a liberal, Jewish household – in all of this? Then one daughter declared war ... Amy Chua with her daughters Lulu, 14, and Sophia, 18. I worry that by losing my temper so much and being so harsh and yelling so much that, by example, I will have taught my daughters to be that way, and I'm now constantly telling them not to do that. "Lulu handed me her 'surprise', which turned out to be a card," writes Chua in her explosive new memoir, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. I admire Chua if for no other reason than she owns her choices and her parenting style. Even travelling abroad, Chua would book a practice room near their hotel.

Why choose to open her mouth at all? How do they produce all those maths whizzes and musical prodigies? Amy Chua brought up her daughters with an extreme regime that banned TV, drilled academic learning and demanded hours of music practice daily. Inside, 'Happy Birthday, Mummy! ", Was her husband against her writing the book? We crack up at each other's jokes and ask each other for advice. It’s this kind of statement and the anecdotes that follow about how she married a non-Chinese man and how her youngest sister, who was born with Down Syndrome, holds two International Special Olympics gold medals in swimming, that make Chua touting extreme parenting methods of Chinese mothers relatable. The truth is, we are definitely in a monster-free zone. It’s this kind of statement and the anecdotes that follow about how she married a non-Chinese man and how her youngest sister, who was born with Down Syndrome, holds two International Special Olympics gold medals in swimming, that make Chua touting extreme parenting methods of Chinese mothers relatable. "When I was little I was so mad at them all the time. The Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that.”  Granted, I still haven’t finished The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother yet but I’m getting the impression that more so than a declaration that Chinese mothers are better than Western mothers The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua is a story about one parent finding her way, just like the rest of us.

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